i started this blog back in november of 2008.
not because i wanted to gain success from it.. heck, i hardly knew what blogging was.
a friend of mine at the time was a blogger and was all, "hey you should start a blog". so i did and here we are.
since then i have been a somewhat regular blogger.. kinda.
i blog when i can. comment when i can.
i have made a few 'internet' friends from doing so. but, let's be honest. most normal people, with normal lives, normal jobs, families and homes and things to do in the 'real world' don't have time to spend or post every waking minute of their lives on blogs, twitter, facebook.. i've never tried to gain 'internet friendships' from doing this.. i've never tried to be in the 'cool internet' group of blogs.
i just don't care.
frankly, twatting all damn day with people i don't even know is just weird to me. it makes me want to scream, "get out of your pajamas. get out of your house. go meet a real friend for lunch!"
tho i adore those very select few 'internet friends' that i associate with regularly, online relationships are just not my main agenda. i have plenty of real life friends that i get to hang out and socialize with in the real world.
so PL&A kinda turned into a fun place to post things i love.. every once in a while, sneaking in a post here and there about my real life.
never once have you read a post by me in regards to blog success, blog followers, blog sponsors..
how can i get more, gain more, there are blogs worse than mine, how can i get more attention, blah blah blah.. cry cry cry.. sniff sniff sniff.
it's because i don't care.. i do not have time to live my life on the internet.
yes, i love followers and comments just like the rest of you.
but i'm not heartbroken when i see i lost a follower. or don't get any comments on a post.
this blog, facebook, twitter does not consume my life.. neither does the amount of unread blogs i have in my reader. which at any given moment, is usually 1000+.
i am jealous of no one's 'blog success' or the amount of 'followers' they have.
obsessing over the amount of 'blog followers' you have it just stupid.
you can't control it.. you don't know these people.
why does it matter?
people will read. or not. probably not.
life will go on.
if people want to give you free shit to give away on your blog, congratulations to you.
but really, it's not the most amazing hearts sparkles and sunshine of life. it's cool if you got free lipgloss, but really if it was that much of a big deal to me, i'll go spend $10 and buy my own. no biggie.
several people emailed me after last night's post asking why i worked so much.
i'm not exactly broke. all my bills are paid. i'm not in debt. i don't have bill collection agencies ringing my phone. {just the state of mississippi trying to collect.. ha!}
i have a very successful career that i gained from the bottom up, that i am very proud of! i do everything myself, pay all my own bills, take care of my two babes and working a lot helps me give them and myself the lifestyle that we want to live.
so, it's because.. i just like spending money.
private school ain't cheap y'all. i've gotten 2 new cars within the last 7 months, that ain't free y'all.
and ain't no one gonna support this clothing, shoes and accessory addiction i have going on.
so work is what i do.
however, several people DID NOT email me to call me out about last nights post for my mention of mrs. bangs, that i pissed off last week. i got many emails and comments with LOL's and i couldn't agree more's and i feel the same way's.. i decided not to publish several of these for the simple fact that i'm not trying to start a blog war here. i didn't call anyone out, name any names. i didn't privately email anyone and tell them who i was referring too.. i can't help it if many many many of you knew who i was talking about.
and you knew because i was not the only one who was rubbed the wrong way by this post..
the phone call that changed everything..
i'll never forget the first time i received
a phone call that would change my whole world.
i guess i should consider myself lucky to have not received
a phone call like this until i was 24..
but to date, this has been the worst phone call i've ever received.
"sweetie, something very bad has happened.."
my dad's words echoed.
my heart sank.
i burst into tears.
over a year later, my heart still hurts.
i dread the day i receive another phone call like this.
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tell me about a phone call that changed your life.
(good or bad)
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tell me about a phone call that changed your life.
(good or bad)
no, i am not insensitive to whatever tragedy occurred in her life.. what bugged the shit out of me was the drama of this girl. the fact that she'd take something that was so "devastating" to her and try to flip it for blog comments. when i commented asking what the point of the post was if you were not going to mention what the phone call was about.. she responded with the remark that she didn't want to share it on her blog.
what i find ironic is this was something she felt comfortable enough to share with 600+ twitter followers. fact is, i asked one of my 'in real life' friends about the blog. and before even reading it, she knew exactly who she was referring too. how can you be uncomfortable posting on your personal blog that is there to serve sharing your life but not too uncomfortable for twitter?
no, she was not uncomfortable sharing the details at all.
she posted that blog for non other than attention.
she wanted people to comment and ask why? who? what?
she left left them guessing on purpose to boost her blog stats.
she took something to close and dear to her heart and paraded it around for the internet to see.
wanna know why?
because she's a DRAMA QUEEN.
who in return, try to make me seem like the bad guy. reprimanding me for bringing it up?
uhh, hello.. not like i know the chick.
how did i bring it up?
isn't she the one that blogged about her horrid phone call?
and then blasted for all of twitter?
how else would i know that she was referring to her uncle's suicide.
hypercritical, i say.
what do you think blog world?
call me out if i am in the wrong here.
when you read a post like the above, what do you take from it?
someone not wanting to share all the details of their personal life? or someone that is begging for the attention + blog comments.
so... since i am now the bad guy here..
oh well, spineless as i have been called out on twitter and via email as of late by mrs. bangs lovely old drunken box blonde wanna be famous blog pal.. am i just mean girl? or is it everything you wish you had the balls to say?
"the fact that you don't find me amazing doesn't reflect poorly on me, it just means you have bad taste."
xoxo- mean girl.
what i find ironic is this was something she felt comfortable enough to share with 600+ twitter followers. fact is, i asked one of my 'in real life' friends about the blog. and before even reading it, she knew exactly who she was referring too. how can you be uncomfortable posting on your personal blog that is there to serve sharing your life but not too uncomfortable for twitter?
no, she was not uncomfortable sharing the details at all.
she posted that blog for non other than attention.
she wanted people to comment and ask why? who? what?
she left left them guessing on purpose to boost her blog stats.
she took something to close and dear to her heart and paraded it around for the internet to see.
wanna know why?
because she's a DRAMA QUEEN.
who in return, try to make me seem like the bad guy. reprimanding me for bringing it up?
uhh, hello.. not like i know the chick.
how did i bring it up?
isn't she the one that blogged about her horrid phone call?
and then blasted for all of twitter?
how else would i know that she was referring to her uncle's suicide.
hypercritical, i say.
what do you think blog world?
call me out if i am in the wrong here.
when you read a post like the above, what do you take from it?
someone not wanting to share all the details of their personal life? or someone that is begging for the attention + blog comments.
so... since i am now the bad guy here..
oh well, spineless as i have been called out on twitter and via email as of late by mrs. bangs lovely old drunken box blonde wanna be famous blog pal.. am i just mean girl? or is it everything you wish you had the balls to say?
"the fact that you don't find me amazing doesn't reflect poorly on me, it just means you have bad taste."
xoxo- mean girl.
33 comments:
thanks for being real. totally true. i see people like that on FB...complaining about shit all the time just for a reaction.
and amen to the whole blogger thing...can i forward this to some other bloggers? i have a list.
oh man. i love it! you are just saying what we are all thinking... same thing happens on fb for people to express concern and have the attention on them. I started my blog over 3 years ago before it was popular and I blog to remember stuff for me. to entertain me, if I make someone else laugh in the process, yay!
I hate drama and I have no idea who you are talking about. But I heart you and adore your lovely giveaway free blog! :)
I love this post! It is so very true. And I hate drama, even though I do talk a great deal about my personal life in my blog, I don't do it for the comments.
This is why you're my best friend. You speak your mind. You often say what most of us are thinking, but don't have the guts to say. {myself included} Blogging popularity has ruined a lot of great blogs. It's also stopped some blogs from ever getting off the ground. I'm here for the fun of it. Blogging is therapeutic and a great stress reliever, but it's not my life. I have enough irons in the fire without adding stats, counters, giveaways, advertisers, and whoring myself out to the list. I have enough of that in my real life. {BA DUM CHING!} What what?!
If you are asking people to call you out, then why won't you publish THOSE comments? Just a thought.
agreed. blogging is an outlet for me. if other peeps read it, so be it. if not, who cares?
I <3 you! Always have, always will. Although I might not be in 100% total agreement with you on things on your blog all the time, I'm in agreement with this. It is frustrating as hell when you get into reading a blog and then realize the blogger is pretty much scamming you for clicks. They lead you on and keep you waiting for me when in fact the reason you came along in the first place was to just read their blog.
I appreciate that you're real. You're open and share when you feel like it and don't when you don't...but you don't lead people on and cause drama. Can I get an amen! Keep doing what you're doing! :)
Ummm yes what you said :)
If you have such a problem with said blogger (it's obvious you do because you are clearly aggressively bashing her two days in a row worth of posts), why are you even reading her posts? There's an awesome thing called "UNFOLLOWING." Seems to me like you're doing what you were preaching against (the whole "begging for attention" thing). This post seems like a scream for attention. If you're going to "keep it real", be prepared for others to voice their opinion, too. No hard feelings... just had to say it.
ah, and how convenient you have your comments set to approval. That's kind of wimpy.
I'm not familiar with the blog you're referring too at all, but i have always found it frustrating when a blogger shares parts of the story but not all of it, kind of hinting at what's going on and not just saying what's happening. You get to pick and choose what you share with the internet, but writing vaguely about it just doesn't seem that worth while and does seem a bit attention grabbing.
I think it is pretty disgusting that you would steal someones content about something traumatic to make a point. I am friends with that blogger, IRL, and can tell you she is the sweetest girl. She also doesn't need to hide behind a computer and play this silly little game that you are.
Why are you even following her if you don't like her so much? Get a fucking life.
I agree with the whole no drama, post when you want, have a real life thing... But you definitely contradicted yourself by bashing someone you don't know in real life on your blog. I think if you didn't care as much as you say, then you wouldn't have posted something like that... And just because you didn't post her name or blog, people obviously know who you are talking about.
If you don't care, the don't read, don't follow, don't comment, and ignore!
Wow, for someone who doesn't care, you sure put a lot of time and effort into being spiteful. It's clearly your choice and blog, but what a huge disappointment.
Thank you for posting this. Now I have somewhere on the internet to go and show my 3 daughters how not to act. You are a role model for hypocrisy.
From a male perspective, you may want to not have your husband see this blog. I'm sure he will lose whatever desire he once had for you.
It is absolutely sickening that you would attack someone about such a personal and painful memory. The beauty of having your own blog is the ability to share as much or as little as you like.
You seriously took the time to write two posts about her, yet you're talking about other people needing to get a life? I'd say the real drama queen here is the one starting an internet fight.
Signed,
Another of her real life friends.
Clearly people are defending her which makes me further believe that you lied when saying that no one defended her yesterday upon reading your horrendous attack. I tried to be polite and ask a question the first time I commented and now I will go ahead and say that I think you are very rude and must have a huge chip on your shoulder to spend two days writing about this. If me commenting twice makes me "slightly obsessed" then so be it. At least I can sleep at night knowing that I don't wish harm on people.
Wow, these people are coming out of the woodwork. Guess I didn't get the mass email saying, "HELP ME! HELP ME!"
TEXAS bloggers unite.. hahahaha!!
You can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to write, that's for sure.
I'm not one for the stats, and the fans, and the popularity either, and I've also written my share of snarky posts...
So I was trying to figure out why what you wrote here gets under my skin a little. And I think it's because it does come across as mean-spirited and under the guise of not caring when you seem to care very much.
But I don't know you (like you don't know Mrs. Bangs or the woman who wrote the post you took issue with), so I'll stop there.
"when you read a post like the above, what do you take from it?"
I usually will un-follow if I do not know the person honestly... but I don't comment either, LOL!
I have almost the exact same thing scheduled for tomorrow relating to blog drama and the like.
I offer sponsors (not successfully..ha) but so much of blogging lately has been a race for this and blog drama that. And I fully think that some people just like to fuel the fire in many of these instances. It's really quite pathetic. I don't have alot of time to blog and when I do I hate when it's full of dumb shit.
Regarding the whole thing between you and the other blogger, I'm not even going to comment because I really like both of you girls as bloggers and to be honest I really could care less what people choose to share with me. To each their own.
But I do know that blog drama is for the birds and everybody needs to grow the fuck up and stop worrying about this dumb shit.
LW OUT! ; )
Yes, you are just a mean girl. You're attacking a sweet girl for not wanting to disclose such a personal matter on her blog. We share as much or as little as we want on our blogs. I don't understand why you read her blog, if you dislike her so much, and don't enjoy her blogs content. It seems to me like you're the one who wants the attention. Which you got by writing this nasty post. So congrats to you!
This post is the epitome of "I want attention." So how are you going to go and accuse someone of exactly that?
Let me just say, you are more than free to write this post. I credit you for HONESTY - but that's it. After all, isn't that the beauty of blogging? I do, however, think you are heartless to re-post such a tragic piece of information for nothing other than to bash someone's spirits.
That blogger went out on a limb to invest her own feelings into a post. Whether you like it or not, you no fucking right to put her personal loss on blast for your own benefit (of attention-which you deny).
Another thing. I've seen very few comments that "back you up" per say.. and all the other e-mails, texts, etc. that "agree" with you. I don't believe it. I think you are a liar. I think you are hiding behind this little computer screen and have no real evidence. Something a coward would do.
If you don't like how someone acts on their blog - whether it be topics, sponsors, comments, or followers, then simply UNFOLLOW. But YOU, you are the hypocrite here.
I will refer NO ONE to visit your blog. Over and out.
Really just really?
Tara is one of the sweetest most genuine person I read the blog of, and you my friend need to get a life! I honestly can't believe you are putting down such a wonderful woman!
For not caring very much you sure put a lot of effort into not one but two different posts on Tara,
I don't let things get me angry very often, but when you mess with my friends watch out!!
I love reading your blog because you seem real. I am the same as you, I blog for myself, not for freebies and to gain extra followers.
I agree with you about that the blogger may have wrote to get attention BUT at the same time, blogging is about sharing your own experiences and opinions. I think if she was comfortable putting her personal story out there to gain more followers then good for her, personally I wouldn't do that and since you said that's not something you would do either, I would just stop following her blog and keep doing your thing on your blog :)
Damn girl! You definitely have the balls that most of us wish we had! Your honesty is amazing and such an inspiration ... you go girl!!! xoxo
Nevermind, I found what you were referring to in todays post!
Hot Dang! You can't mess with Texas apparently?! I totally understand your frustration with people that seem to be fishing for readers/stats though maybe this girl wasn't totally doing that intentionally? Hard to say...
Though I hate it when people leave u hanging on facebook/twitter/blogs and make u guess what the heck they are talking about!?
I'm a new follower because I totally appreciate your honesty. I thought the same as you, "what is the point of this post?" but I'm okay with it. I don't care if she wrote it bc that's all she felt comfortable sharing on the blog. I don't care if she wrote it for blog followers- not my business. But, I get where you are coming from too. Good thing the blog world has different personalities, people, agendas. If a post frustrates me, I move on. You'll get a lot of people who applaud you and a lot of people who bash you for your post. The blogging world is about free speech, but they'll always be "sides" which I refuse to take. You know what hey say, though, "don't mess with Texas" haha jk
I love your honesty!
I do not think you were wrong! I have NO idea who this person was but I would have thought the same thing you did!
I totally get the part about blogging just for fun. I don’t know how the people do it all day, every day on every single social media site. I’m not in a race for followers. I don’t look at my stats. I appreciate blog friends and comments, but I don’t get upset either. I’m a stay at home mom and I use it as an outlet, even if most things I write about are trivial, it’s fun for me. I hate the rallies for more followers, the “hey look at me” tactics (the above one included!), the sponsors (!!) and the cliques. OMG. The cliques!!! I felt like that post was just like the people on Facebook who write vague status updates to fish for people to comment and ask questions. It is attention seeking. But I think all bloggers want some sort of attention or we wouldn't blog. I just like the ones that aren't so desperate for it.
And holy cow, some of these comments!!!
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